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Being the only child is a unique position in a family. Without any siblings to compete with, the only child monopolizes his parents' attention and resources, not just for a short period of time like a firstborn, but forever. In effect, this makes an only child something like a "super-firstborn": only children have the privilege (and the burden) of having all their parents' support and expectations on their shoulders. Thus, only children tend to be:
Only children also tend to be more independent than those with siblings. They have fewer opportunities to play with others, so they are left to develop themselves.
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5. Age Spacing
“The closer the age intervals are between siblings, the more competition there is,” says Stewart. When kids are one to two years apart, especially if they are the same gender, there’s more conflict, says Salmon. (Good news: That doesn’t mean they won’t be close when they’re older.) Parents are also overwhelmed, which adds to the turmoil. The closely born second child may overtake the firstborn role by being better, faster, and stronger—or zig to her zag. (She likes to dance? I’m going with softball.) Three to four years tends to be a sweet spot; kids are close in age but have room to be themselves, says Salmon. Many experts agree that five or more years between kids acts as a reset button, kicking off a “new family” with a fresh firstborn. And the former youngest, now middle, may never shed the baby role. “If you’re a second child whose sibling is 10 years older, then in most practical ways you grew up as a firstborn or only child,” says Sulloway. What about twins? Rules don’t apply. “Twins are the special focus of their parents,” says Salmon. “There’s typically less competition between identical twins. Fraternal twins, however, behave more like other siblings.”
Also, firstborns are perfectionists their whole lives. As parents, they may set standards that are difficult for a child to reach. This makes them frustrated and their children unhappy.